Full Circle Forgiveness – Paul de Jong
I’m sure everyone of us can relate to a time in our lives where you run into someone where there is automatically something in the air, an awkwardness, either because, they or we have either wronged the other, may have failed to do what was promised, may have borrowed money and never paid it back, or done something that just plain and simply hurt the other party. Well, welcome to life…. Every one of us need of forgiveness in our lives, not because we are different to everyone else, but because we are the same, very human. True freedom begins in the heart, and whether we are the instigator or the victim of wrong, we are all in need of the power that forgiveness brings.
Edward Herbert An Anglo-Welsh soldier, diplomat, historian, poet and religious philosopher of England wrote; “He that cannot forgive others, breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself, for every man has need to be forgiven”. Now its way more easily said than done, because what we need to forgive others of and be forgiven for; is vast and wide and deeply personal with a lot of pain attached. Yet still there is a journey for each of us to travel. Forgiveness is a process and it involves our heart. It requires an active decision even in the pain.
The world recently stopped to honour the passing one of our great modern day examples of forgiveness, Nelson Mandela. On his release from Prison on Robben Island after 27 years:, he said, “As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison”. Ultimately, forgiveness needs God in the equation, for when we see our lives from God’s perspective, we see that we had a debt that we could not erase, but He sent Jesus to pay the ultimate price of his life so that we could be free from its bondage in our lives.
Ps Paul de Jong